I hate going back and reading these posts as much as I love to. I hadn't seen Jake in a couple years, however I had gotten a chance to talk to him. I knew not to talk to him much about how he was feeling. He absolutely despised the idea of being the source of anyone's pity, or people feeling sorry for him. I think talking wrestling kept his mind off everything else that was going on.
One of the last times I talked to him, we where talking about Alex Dierenger and Destin McCauley, and we both had our opinions of who'd be more successful, who'd have the better college wrestling career, etc..etc...
We had about 10 posts back and forth, and he left the last one with, "well, I guess we'll see after a couple years." We both knew we wouldn't, but...that was Jake.
And it sounds like in talking to you, he just enjoyed NOT thinking about what was happening.
And yeah, he was probably the most humble person I've ever known. There isn't a shadow of a doubt that he could have been a multiple time D-1 National Champ had he chose to wrestle in college. But, he decided very simply he didn't have the desire to wrestle anymore. Which frankly I respect more than guys who don't have the desire, but eat up a spot, a scholarship, etc..etc...
He went to work on his business and that blew up.
But neither was nearly as important in his life as his faith, family and friends. You just wish you had a chance to go back and have another chat with him, or another weekend with him......but such is life.
These threads a couple years later are a reminder of how important he was to people.