I mentioned in another thread Brokaw's comment that we talk about race in code. You used (if unintentionally) the magic code phrase "blaming others" that white people often use when talking about black people.
Damn, they should publish that code book so we can all be more careful. I tell my daughter (who is white!) that she shouldn't blame others. Those used to be words to live by, but now they are code words. I'm going to have to tell her stop saying that. Might be accused of racism.