Quinn, I agree that the issue needs to be looked at realistically as well as ideologically. However, as sgallan said I'm not sure the younger generation (my generation, I guess) of soliders is really so weirded out by homosexuals. When I went to high school and university, there were gay guys in our gym classes and so on... sure there were some rude jokes but I never felt particularly uncomfortable. I just don't think spending time in the company of homosexuals is a big deal, and I would assume a lot of soldiers my age or younger feel the same.
If you are suggesting that wartime is not the correct time to make changes to the millitary, you might be onto something there.