I'm bored as hell and just roaming the wrestling message boards and decided to make this thread.

If you could go back in time, what would be the top 3 moments in your life that you'd change.

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Is it really any worse than some of these other pointless threads that appear on here daily?

Originally Posted by wrastler118

Is it really any worse than some of these other pointless threads that appear on here daily?

No, just a good opportunity for a wisecrack.

Spider (and Wrastler118) - my first response was flippant, talking about eliminating alcohol-related situations and the "youthful learning processes". However, as I thought about some funny things that I could include, some more serious thoughts kept intruding. My wife and I lost a little girl to a late-term miscarrage - what would I give to be able to go back and somehow change that? There are three or four times I can think of where I made the wrong decision in Vietnam, and cost young men their lives or their good health. There are people that I have hurt through ignorance or indifference, jobs that I have done half-assed, responsibilities that I have shirked. Looking back from the advantage of a slightly older man, I would truely love to have that time machine.

If nothing else - what would you give for the chance to go back a few years and offer Bill Gates a little financial support?

Spider- got me!

Anyways, I think about some of the things I would change and think how they would change my life as it is now.

I'd change my final senior year match and do some things different. I'd avoid going to the football game that messed my knee up and ended my college wrestling career. Adn I'd definately go back and change some of the butter faces I went out with.

Okay, I'll be serious, too. I am very fortunate to be able to say that most of the major decisions I have made in my life have either been the right ones, or the wrong ones with only minor consequences. I must interject here to say to M Richardson that I suspect that you probably made the best decisions that you could have at the time, and are being tough on yourself in hindsight. I am thankful that I have never been put in a position to have to make such difficult decisions.

There are some wrestling decisions that I'd like to rethink, like not wrestling off for the New Englands at a higher weight class my senior year in college. I was about even with the guy who went and placed second, but I didn't challenge him because he had been at that weight class all year and had a good record that earned him a high seed. I had bounced around from one weight class to another, and wouldn't have gotten such a good seed. I told myself it was for the good of the team, but now I regret not giving it a shot. As an ironic aside, he lost in the finals to a high school teammate of mine. I would have lost to him too, but it would have been a great way to end my career (if I made it to the finals).

But the main regret I have in life is that when I was married, I was always the practical one who said that we couldn't afford to do this or to buy that, and my wife had to drag me on vacation or twist my arm to buy a new car. I was the stick-in-the-mud and she was the fun-loving free spirit. About nine months before she died, she wanted us to go on a vacation to London for a week. I really didn't want to go, but I gave in and it turned out to be a lot of fun for both of us. It also turned out to be the last good time we had together, so I am forever grateful that I did give in. After she died, I realized that you can't live just for the future; you have to plan for the future but not at the expense of enjoying today, because you never know how many more todays you may have. We loved each other very much, but if she had been married to the Jack of today, I know she would have been much happier.