scared to lose

shoot!!! · 07-12-2009, 09:55 PM

is it normal to be scared to wrestle somebody in competition? i dont know why but i get mixed feelings the days leading up to competition, its a feeling of being nervous to lose and fear. i hate those feelings it really holds me back from wrestling. i also think that i get nervous because i dont want to dissapoint my coaches... but the feeling i get the most is fear.

in the wrestling room during practice and open mats, i wrestle with multiple time state champions with no problem, no fear and no nervousness. i even surprise myself with how well i actually wrestle. but when it comes to wrestling people that i KNOW i should be beating i again start to get terrified of losing, or getting taken down, because if i lose i start thinking that i suck, and im worried that my teammates might start thinking that i suck. the fear also hits me hard during a wrestle off.

i know this sounds sort of like a confusing question, but im trying to type everything that i feel goes through my head during competition. im really hoping that you guys could help me out with this. i know there are people here that have gotten really far in wrestling who could help me out, or some coaches that could help me out.

THANKS!!!!!

ThePurplePride · 07-12-2009, 10:01 PM

It's normal to be nervous but scared of that person?? Don't focus on the person, focus on his skills and be confident in your own.

tpay · 07-13-2009, 09:48 AM

As my buddy from Alabama always says: "The maindest thang is don't be ascared"

Badcat · 07-13-2009, 12:06 PM

Sounds like you're concentrating on everyone else and their opinions of you rather than focusing on the match at hand. Don't worry about the outside influences, focus on your opponent. If he gets a shot on you and takes you down...so what...fight harder. If you lose a match, find out why and correct it. If anyone questions your ability, punch them in the mouth and tell them to have a nice day. Wrestling is about strategy and kicking your opponents ass. Nothing else matters once you set foot in the circle. Nothing.

amlan74 · 07-13-2009, 12:25 PM

It's like Rocky says in Rocky 5, your best friend is Frankie Fear, only you control him, not the other way around. Use the fear as a tool, not as a wall.

Sterling · 07-14-2009, 11:49 AM

perfectly normal but you should belive you can win the reason I lost my final match is I didn't belive i could win

thatfilipinokidd · 07-17-2009, 08:53 PM

Lol i experienced the same feeling when i see that guy in the end of the mat that loooked hella tough but when ref whistles to start the match and handshakes, my fear GONE, ALL MY MIND WAS ON THE MAT, TRYING TO WIN NO MATTER WHAT, then i blanked out and i decisioned that guy 6-2 and wow lol.

arm-spin · 07-18-2009, 01:10 AM

Yes it is normal.

Focus on the act of wrestling well, rather than the final result. Instead of thinking about winning or losing focus on taking good shots, staying in solid position, and wrestling smart. The wins will come, and losing a wrestling match isn't the end of the world either.

mhs189 · 07-23-2009, 11:07 AM

here's the thing, whether you're scared or not doesn't matter THAT much. You just gotta get through your head that you CAN'T WIN if you DON'T SHOOT. SHOOT, SHOOT, SHOOT, and RESHOOT. If you see something, go for it. Work on your SHORT OFFENSE so that you can recover from a bad shot if needbe.

ThePurplePride · 07-23-2009, 05:05 PM

Fact is though, that even if youre scared before a match once you're actually IN the mathc wrestling you forget about it.

07-12-2009, 09:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
shoot!!! Redshirt Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 1	scared to lose is it normal to be scared to wrestle somebody in competition? i dont know why but i get mixed feelings the days leading up to competition, its a feeling of being nervous to lose and fear. i hate those feelings it really holds me back from wrestling. i also think that i get nervous because i dont want to dissapoint my coaches... but the feeling i get the most is fear. in the wrestling room during practice and open mats, i wrestle with multiple time state champions with no problem, no fear and no nervousness. i even surprise myself with how well i actually wrestle. but when it comes to wrestling people that i KNOW i should be beating i again start to get terrified of losing, or getting taken down, because if i lose i start thinking that i suck, and im worried that my teammates might start thinking that i suck. the fear also hits me hard during a wrestle off. i know this sounds sort of like a confusing question, but im trying to type everything that i feel goes through my head during competition. im really hoping that you guys could help me out with this. i know there are people here that have gotten really far in wrestling who could help me out, or some coaches that could help me out. THANKS!!!!!

07-12-2009, 10:01 PM	#2 (permalink)
ThePurplePride Round of 12 Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 258	Re: scared to lose It's normal to be nervous but scared of that person?? Don't focus on the person, focus on his skills and be confident in your own.

07-13-2009, 09:48 AM	#3 (permalink)
tpay NCAA Champ Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Oxnard California Posts: 1,058	Re: scared to lose As my buddy from Alabama always says: "The maindest thang is don't be ascared"

07-13-2009, 12:06 PM	#4 (permalink)
Badcat Round of 12 Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Hershey Pennsylvania Posts: 220	Re: scared to lose Sounds like you're concentrating on everyone else and their opinions of you rather than focusing on the match at hand. Don't worry about the outside influences, focus on your opponent. If he gets a shot on you and takes you down...so what...fight harder. If you lose a match, find out why and correct it. If anyone questions your ability, punch them in the mouth and tell them to have a nice day. Wrestling is about strategy and kicking your opponents ass. Nothing else matters once you set foot in the circle. Nothing.

07-13-2009, 12:25 PM	#5 (permalink)
amlan74 Redshirt Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Madison Heights, VA Posts: 59	Re: scared to lose It's like Rocky says in Rocky 5, your best friend is Frankie Fear, only you control him, not the other way around. Use the fear as a tool, not as a wall.

07-14-2009, 11:49 AM	#6 (permalink)
Sterling Round of 12 Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Aurora,colorado Posts: 209	Re: scared to lose perfectly normal but you should belive you can win the reason I lost my final match is I didn't belive i could win

07-17-2009, 08:53 PM	#7 (permalink)
thatfilipinokidd Redshirt Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 51	Re: scared to lose Lol i experienced the same feeling when i see that guy in the end of the mat that loooked hella tough but when ref whistles to start the match and handshakes, my fear GONE, ALL MY MIND WAS ON THE MAT, TRYING TO WIN NO MATTER WHAT, then i blanked out and i decisioned that guy 6-2 and wow lol. __________________ "Start Strong, Stay Strong and Finish Strong..." -Kurtis Starnes

07-18-2009, 01:10 AM	#8 (permalink)
arm-spin Olympic Champ Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 2,132	Re: scared to lose Yes it is normal. Focus on the act of wrestling well, rather than the final result. Instead of thinking about winning or losing focus on taking good shots, staying in solid position, and wrestling smart. The wins will come, and losing a wrestling match isn't the end of the world either.

07-23-2009, 11:07 AM	#9 (permalink)
mhs189 National Finalist Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Matoaca, Virginia Posts: 786	Re: scared to lose here's the thing, whether you're scared or not doesn't matter THAT much. You just gotta get through your head that you CAN'T WIN if you DON'T SHOOT. SHOOT, SHOOT, SHOOT, and RESHOOT. If you see something, go for it. Work on your SHORT OFFENSE so that you can recover from a bad shot if needbe.

07-23-2009, 05:05 PM	#10 (permalink)
ThePurplePride Round of 12 Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 258	Re: scared to lose Fact is though, that even if youre scared before a match once you're actually IN the mathc wrestling you forget about it.

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