When I did the most coaching I was working 50 to 60 hour weeks. My work day started at 5am. I rushed to make it to practices by 6pm. I often also worked at least a partial day on the weekend. I was lucky to sleep more then 5 hours a night during any of the sport seasons I coached.
I know what working around a job schedule is about. I still took hours off from work here or there to see my kids in school plays, band concerts etc. and made up those hours working on weekends. It can be done but it is very hard work.
I also was providing rides not only for my own kids but other kids who would not have been able to come to practice or meets because their parents couldn't drive or find transport for their kids. I can't count how many meals and drinks I bought for kids that would not have had them at tourneys and meets if I hadn't dug into my own pocket. I never asked for to be repaid. My reward was seeing those kids enjoying something they would have missed out on otherwise.
I followed the lead of a youth coach I was lucky enough to work with for 10 years. He has dedicated over 25 years to youth coaching, community volunteering and booster club support for multiple high school programs. The things I did fall short of his dedication as far as I'm concerned.
I did use my own vacation time. I don't demand others do it but I did.
I should have prefaced my statement that some coaches have those issues. I am more then well aware that a huge percentage of coaches go way above and beyond to help thier team.
I think you would also agree that there are coaches out there that do put in the minimum effort when it comes to some of those extras.
I also tried to point out that the coach should NOT BE ALONE in efforts to build a team.
Building a good high school team starts with a good youth team to feed the middle school, JV and eventually high school programs.
Parents need to be involved at all levels volunteering in any way that they can to help their kids teams.
Booster programs can help get communities involved and provide very valuable financial support.
School wrestler alumni are often forgotten as a great resource to help with a team in many areas.
I hope I clarified my points and I tried to add a few more examples.