Try going to http://www.themat.com/section.php?se...bs&state_id=16 to find a club near you. That will give you the opportunity to wrestle off-season.
Totally off-subject, but I think it is important: Please re-read your posting, putting yourself in the position of the rest of the members, looking at your problem for the first time. You are asking us to go to the effort of trying to determine your problem and a solution. Is it to much to ask that you run your posting through a spell-checker and a grammar-checker, and that you re-read/edit to make sure that it makes sense?
Grant you, I am a dinosaur. None the less, spelling, grammar, punctuation, and syntax all effect meaning. Give us the opportunity to help by making your query easily understandable. Try as I may, I cannot, for the life of me, figure out what “seeting mentalities” can mean.