I could discuss this topic for quite some time.
My daughter is in gymnastics. Her coach is an ex Russian national wrestler. My son used to do gymnastics at the same gym but he tried wrestling after 4 years of gymnastics and now is hooked. I often discuss wrestling with her coach and he has said many of the same things you have stated.
Drill, drill, drill. Wrestle matches. And then drill some more. He also finds the USA idea of shoot for the legs to be insane. He feels that one should focus on learning hand control and upper body throws. He said that in a match you will always get in contact with your opponents arms, head, and shoulders. But you may never get to touch the legs. Also, that there is too much focus on aggression and not technique. He quite coaching wrestling because he became too frustrated with the mentality. BUT I am hoping to convince him to come back in. He is very interested in youth wrestling and has a 5 year old son soooooooo I am hoping he will coach again.
With that said. My son belongs to a great club. The coaches are really great and I could not have been any luckier to find this club.